Well, things have taken a turn.... It seems that the mommy had another psych. eval. performed by another institution.  This "new" eval was only a "talking interview" with a psych. No testing was performed.. So, our question is where is the first eval that she had done back in April? Why wasn't that one shown, was it because she had the testing done and it showed what was really wrong with her and she certainly doesn't want that coming to light.

 Then after a month of hounding and gathering documents I finally got the DA to accept perjury charges on her. It seems that the evidence that I  have IS enough to go after her for perjury, which we all know no one gets in trouble for lying in court....

I will try to post updates as we go along, but I tend to forget to post here with all that is going on in our lives right now..

Keep us in your thoughts and email if you like, we love getting messages of support.

Thanks

I agree.... My wife herself was abused by her mother, she was hit with wooden cooking utensils and tree sticks. My wife has scars on her back that verify her tales to me. It looks just as if she was whipped. WHen I met her she told me these things and it scared me to think that we may have children and how would she be with them? I oput thosefears to rest after we had our first child. She was so wonderfully gentle with him as she was with me. She treated both of us like we were precious. She never hurt him not even a little. She was so careful with everything about him.

THen we had our second child and my wife changed INTO HER MOTHER. She pinched and hit our fist son quite often, she ht and pushed me around. She cursed more and more, prior to that a foul word never left my wifes lips! SHe bagan hoarding as well. At times she would ball up and cry, at other times she would rage so hard that no one even had to be in the room for her to  argue.

 She was always the "victim" and very dramatic. Nothing was ever her fault. She used high powered words like threaten, harrass and attack. When I would see the rage starting I would tell her that if she didn't stop and calm down I  would leave the room. Now she says that I alwasy said I was leaving her! That was used against me in court.

 My wife always took care of the money, she paid the bills and gave me money when I needed it. After the pregnancy I had to beg for money, then I had tell her why I needed it, and IF I got the debit card then I needed to bring the reciept to her right away! ANd by right away I mean if I went out to get gas, I had to get gas come home give her the card and reciept and THEN I could go back out. Lets say I was talking the boys in the woods for oour routine wildlife watching and I needed gas, GO TO THE GAS STATION FIRST, COME HOME give her back the card and receipt and THEN I could take the boys out. YET< in court I was the controlling one.

My wife NEVER did anything with the oldest sons school, well she did go to two conferences with teachers, his very first one and one last year when I decided that weather was just too nice to pass up the 4 day weekend and I took the boys camping.She was mad about having to go to see the teacher but she went. Other than that I was always the one in the school to pick him up for appointments, school trips, kids nights ETC. My sons school work reflected how much he and Daddy did together and what mommy did with him. Lets see one poster he made, it was about his family and what each one did.. Under mommy he wrote Watch channel 8 news , go shopping, camping. Under Daddy it was hunting, camping , fishing, hiking army navy stuff ETC.. He and I always  watched the Discovery or History channel.  In all of his school journals only one page out of about 8 journals even mentions mommy but many talked about Daddy. Yet in court, I put my recreation wants ABOVE my childrens needs!

 We are a gun family, her and I have carried a gun on our person for about 8 years, YET In court she never carried a gun and I slept with one! NEVER have I slept with a gun in my bed. in our tent while out in the wilds where there are bears YES I had a gun handy but NEVER IN MY HOUSE! At our home my guns were stored in my den, which was in my garage behind 3 lockable doors and in a locked safe! YET in court I had guns laying all about the house. NEVER

She had an affair back in 07, she told me that there was never sex involved just talking. Hmmm, Really I could never be sure and I wanted to leave but fell for her I'm sorry/crying routine and I stayed. We worked through it. That was the only time I ever packed a bagof clothes to leave her. Many times she threatened with with divorce, Yet in court  I was always telling her that I was leaving. Which made me look like I was traumatizing her and the kids! I never screamed at her or my children EVER, I did raise my voice but never screaming and yelling at her or the children, YET IN COURT........ It goes on and on...

Everything that she did she managed to  turn around and put it on me. Making me feel like I was going crazy and we were not in the same realtionship! Hell I didn't remember my own name after that day!

I left her after a rage issue with her and our 2 y/o went to domestic violence, even talked to them on the phone for  the whole weekend before going in on Monday.. Three days later I get a call from them cancelling my appointment. WHY.... Because SHE WENT TO THEM and turned it all around! When I  was there I foudn out that I had not only been hit and screamed at but That I was being financially abused as well. Then they cancel my appointments! Whats worse is they never even returned my calls after that!

How coud a MAN possibly be abused by a woman????? Never happens! Right! I mean she's so tiny and sweet!

Leet me ask you this how can  a woman of 38 not have ONE SINGLE FRIEND?  I mean lets see, I have friends that go allthe way back to  elementary school that I still do things with! Yet, she has NOT ONE SINGLE FRIEND to even go shopping with? Doesn't that say something as well?

I really think that I am crazy!

Please help me!

Lets see, for me it all started back in mid 07. My wife had our 2nd child in May that year, the pregnancy was incredibly difficult for her, she couldn't wat a thing without it coming back up alomost immediately. Both my wife and unborn son were in danger throughout. It was also at this time that my wife began to change, I first noticed the severe mood swings. I always went to the OBGYN appointments with her and one time I spoke with the Dr about it and she told me that it was just hormones and we can expect it to subside after the birth. Well, 5 months after the birth I got hit for the first time by my wife, at my 40th B-day party, a friend of mine brought over some cigars, me not being a smoker I tried one. My wife came in and smelled it then she threw the ashtray across the room and busted me in my mouth. YES, in front of my guests! Then she started on our oldest boy then 6, at first it was smacking but in public she would pinch him in the fleshy part of the arm. Sometimes she would get som angry she would hit him with a wooden cooking spoon, leaving welts on him. There was littel I could do but to comfort him because she never did that around me. That same year she also had an affair, I tried to leave her but she shoved me into the door and scratched me with her nails, she then ripped my bag apart and threw my clothes aroudn the kitchen. Then she broke down crying and begging me not to leave her. I stayed! It took me about 7 months to get "close" to her again but she swore there was no sex in her affair. I took her to counselling twice, both times she quit. BUT, she started acting better toward us. Then we found ourselves pregnant again, this time it was much better. After the birth of our daughter in MArch 09 my wife became depressed again and cried alot, then the sleeping started. All day long she would sleep, other times she wouldn't sleep at all, then still other times she would sleep for 20 minutes and be up all night and day! I couldn't understand it. Then she started the hitting and raging over seemingly normal things to you or I but to her they were major issues. For example: Once I put the dishes in the drainer to dry FACING the wrong direction. She would often rage by herself, sometimes in the shower other times at the kitchen sink. For no reason KNown to me or the children.

Things never got better, I got laid off right after our daughter was born, but got called back 2 months later, she was very upset and didn't want me to go back to work, (LONG STORY) So, I stayed home and I fell in love with being home with my kiddos all the time. I raised my daughter with very little effort from my wife. My oldest son would clean up and go to his bedroom when mommy came home from work, if that says anything.

This past Feb 2010, she went into a rage over my not cooking her steak right for her. Didn't matter that I had the house cleaned, kids fed, bathed and ready for bed by the time she got home. Our then 2 y/o wnated to see mommy so I took him back downstairs to see her. She was eating and breastfeeding our daughter. My son put his head on her lap and said "mommy, I missed you, I love you" But he got his hiar in her salad and she hit the roof. She yanked him up by the arm (which was normal for her to do) then she dragged him across the living room and dropped him in front of the TV screaming for him to sit the F down and that allshe wanted to do was to come hme from work, eat and watch TV and not have to deal with these F-ing kids!

Well, I left her that night with my two boys, She  wouldn't let go of our lil girl and I didn't want an altercation involving the baby, so I just left. The boys and I went to a hotel, she called and called but I was on the phone with domestic violence and didn't answer. Two days later (Monday, the day I went to meet the DV people) my wife called me and begged me to come home and that she was SO VERY SORRY. I went home, within 20 minutes the police were there because she hit me in my head with a piece of firewood. Somehow, she managed to get out of the house with our daughter and ran to the neighbors house. But the police escorted me and the boys away, while "mommy" was locked in a patrol car.

The next day SHE filed a PFA against ME! For raping her three years prior, putting a gun to her head and video taping her and I having sex without her consent.. Only one thing is true, there were video tapes, but they were her idea and they were WITH HER CONSENT. Luckily, the judge saw the videos and told her she needed an eval and threw out the PFA. The next day she left the home and snuck the two lil ones out the back door all the while telling me that they were sleeping. Our oldest wouldn't go anywhere near here.

SO, now she has temporary primary custody of all three and I get to watch them on the weekends! How, can I combat a liar with family willing to lie to protect HER and not the children? I hope that when it goes before a Judge I can show all my evidence and the Judge will see what We all went through! We only had 2 hours for the custody meeting with a master and he decided that she have primary until court!

But, at least for the time being my children haven't been hit by her as they were before. The 3 y/o has been hit a few times that I was told by him.

All this time she made me have to ask for money, she hit me and the boys and she controlled just about every aspect of our lives. OUr children were NEVER allowed to take a bath or they woudl be "wallowing in thier own filth"! Have you ever heard of a child that has never played in a bath tub with toys before he was 8?

Water drops on the kitchen floor set her off, shoes not being in the right place, a wet floor in the bathroom spilled milk, drips from food all the normal things children do woudl  set her into a rage!

Well, I have had  enough for the night, I am just too worn out over all this.

RK from PA

Why is it that people are always talking about how bad child abuse is and how it should be stopped, yet NOT one single foundation, entity, person will help a child that is, has and will continue to be abused if there is a custody proceeding. I have tried every possible foundation, organization, public charity and even the local bar association. The latter is booked for the summer and the rest, well no one will get involved witgh a custody dispute.

Why is that? Is it because they don't want to get into a he said, she said thing. Why wouldn't they just ask for  proof> I can show them proof, they can talk to my oldest boy, who it seems the courts here really don't give too much to, Cause my atty. says they generally do not talk to the children. WHY NOT ITS THE CHILD WHO IS BEING HURT? Who cares what I have to say, at least listen to the child! I can see if the child is too young and doesn't understand fact from fiction, but when you have an 8 y/o who is extremley intelligent and well above others his age then I think the courts should at least give him a listen! He knows what he wants and he knows whats happened to him and who did it. Why would the school feel the need to call police when my spouse, HIS PARENT tried to take him out of school? BECAUSE HE TOLD THEM HE DIDN"T WANT TO GO ANYWHERE WITH HIS MOTHER!

 I really need help with funding this lawyer.... Please find it in your heart to help me help my children... I have so far raised 2500.00 and now I think I will be needing anothe 2500.00 to at least get through the custody hearings. I don't care about our marital home or any of the possessions , I don't care to get half of her pension I don't care about anything but my children! I don't even care about child support I will make it on OUR OWN! All I want is these children to be safe, grow up without  losing their childhood.

Can you beleive that my 8y/o took his FIRST BATH 4 months ago? Why, because my spouse wouldn't let him "wallow in his own filth". I mean come on, I can understand if the child just came in from playing in the mud or something, but never allowing him to play in the tub with toys??

When my spouse left the marital home she left him behind, but she did feel the need to take HIS computer, not because she needed one, but because she knew it was his favorite thing and it would tell him that she is mad at him! He asked me why she didn't take anything of his but his computer, I told him that I had no idea, but maybe she needed it for something. THere was no way that she could have used it after she took it, because when she took it, she broke / ripped out a critical part. Knowing her, I feel that since she could get the screwed in plug out  she just yanked it out. The computer was at that point no good to her. She never tried to contact him in 3 months, though I let him call her cell, she didn't answer so he left a message, she never returned his call. Yet, she felt the need to drive by the house every morning before work. Couldn't she have dropped something in the mail box or leave something on the porch for him? NO! WHY? How could she do this to her first born son? For him I had no answers and he was sad and mad about it. All I could do was to comfort him, I couldn't tell him my thoughts.

 I guess I keep writing because it helps me cope. I feel the need to talk this out, maybe its even better for me to just type it and have people read it, I do keep a journal but I am the only one who reads that. I just hope that someone out there will read what  we are going through and help us. Every little bit would help. I out food on the table keep the electric on, I Ihave no choice but to keep the TV and the internet running, because if I turn it off I have to pay early termination fees! WHAT? ETF's I've scaled everything back to the minimun and have turned off my aircard, well, had it suspended so that I don't have to pay the full amount on it.

I do have a solar array that we used to use for camping if anyone is interested? 4 panels, 3 in the array and one to use for a maintenance charge.

Ok, Now, I'm getting off subject.. ANYWAY, please Please help us! If I can just get through the custody hearing we will be much better off. Once the children are in my care all the time I will be able to raise them with more love and care then she will ever have. I couldn't be closer to these children unless I had them myself! I am more a mother to them and I am all they have ever known to give them comfort, compassion and respect. ALl she did was to go to work come home and be mean to them. I can't say that she was ALWAYS mean everyday day in and day out, she did have her good times but when your son does a project for 1st grade where he has to write about his family and what they do and he puts down, under "mommy" watch the news, go shopping sleep then I'll be darned if something is NOT WRONG! Andhe's right, thats exactly mommy she watched the news went shopping and slept and went to work..

Ihave to stop cause I just keep running on

Thanks for listening to me rant and if you can please help us. even a little bit.

 If you can or will help and need to get in touch with me then reply here and I will even give you my phone number and you can speak to me directly just to show that this is not a scam.

I really don't know where to start.. So, I will start from the beginning...3 years ago my wife and I had our 2nd child, the pregnancy was horrible for her, she couldn't even drink water without complications. My wife and so were in danger. WE did eventually make it through and our son was born problem free. The trouble was that my wife went into a spiral with PPD (undiagnosed, as she refused to beleive something was wrong with her). She began hitting me first then our 1st son, then it started on our 2nd child, she smacked him on front of both our parents and myself over him getting poo on the fresh clothing she had just put on him. I was mad, her mom yelled at her and my parents sat there stunned.  Not long after that she hit me and busted my lip open over my having a cigar on my 40th. Then she had an affair, I tried to leave but as I was trying to get out the door she shoved me into it scratched me with her nails and threw my clothes all over the living room. She then broke down and started crying, I stayed for her and our children. I took her to counselling for the both of us, She quit because of the high cost, then I found a free service through the Church, she quit that one too. She did get somewhat better and we both tried very hard to put the past behind us. We did pretty good and foudn we were expecting again. This pregnancy went very well, but my wife never really recovered from the other one. After this birth she became very depressed and became even more full of rage. She screamed at me overr dishes placed the wring direction in the drainer, water drops on the floor. SHe began hoarding to the point that we had paths through the house and if I touched anything she would go into a full blown rage. This past Feb. She came home from work in a mood, I had already had the children fed, bathed and ready for bed that night expecting to spend some time with her alone. She creamed at me over her food not being doen her way. I went upstairs with our 2y/o, but he wanted to see mommy. SO, I took him back down while I got my iced tea. I watched as he lay his head on her lap and said "I love you mommy, I miss you. Problem was that his hair got into her salad and she yanked him byt the arm, dragged him across the room and dropped him in front of the TV. I went in, picked him up and told her that we were leaving. Our oldest came running to me and I told him to get some clothes too. I asked for my daughter but my wife wouldn;t let her go. SO Ihad no choice but to leave her behind feeling that once we left she would calm down and get her head together. my wife called me several times and asked me to come home, I told her no, not until she admited and sought help. She refused. We stayed away, I contacted Domestic violence and spent hours on the phone with them, they made me an appt. for Monday. I went then my wife called and beeged me to come home and that she was very sorry and we would get help. I went home, within 20 minutes the police were there, she took a piece of wood and hit me in the head. So, now here we are.....

I am now fighting for custody of my children, I am now in trouble with money, I need another 5000.00 to get through the final custody hearing and I only have 1587.00 left. So what I am asking for is anyone to help me protect my children and hopefully the Judge will force my wife to get anger managment help. Once my eveidence is presented and the childs Godfather speaks (he saw alot of the abuse and depression) things will be much better for my kiddos. My oldest told his principal that he was afraid of his mommy and didn't want her to pick him up from school, so school called police when she treid.

 I have many good witnesses includign the school and police, but without my attorney its all worth nothing. Please find it in your heart to help us..

I knwo it says to NOT put your email address here but it is linked to  a paypal account

SO: Unitedair2004@hotmail.com

This is not a scam and if you would like my phone number to speak with me then email me and I will talk to you. If I get more money than I need then it will be donated to a childrens charity within 30 days of the hearing.